Once as the holidays approached a woman decided to host a sumptuous dinner party. She began to plan and prepare well in advance.
First, she laid out the use of rooms in her house: Enter here, coats upstairs, gather in the family room, lay the table in the dining room, etc. She was very thorough.
Then she got to work on decorations, which had to be just perfect for the occasion! She shopped, consulted, pored over magazines, queried her friends. She made beautiful bows and streamers, bought eye-catching creations, meticulously matched colors and swatches. She glued and painted, adjusted and arranged.
The woman used lighting to enhance the mood of the occasion. Lamps illuminated, candles glowed, twinkle lights added color and an air of magic.
Of course the table was a special focus. Magnificent color-coordinated sprays of flowers were enhanced by shining silver bowls of cleverly crafted marble fruit and nuts. The table itself was a masterpiece of deeply polished wood overlaid with a virgin linen tablecloth. Each place setting was of the most delicate translucent china and bright sterling silverware, with exquisite crystal goblets glinting in the candlelight.
The woman had taken care to personally invite family and friends, sending stationary and cards that were eye-catching and of the finest quality. These engraved and gold-embossed invitations promised a dinner party of the very most rewarding sort and attracted much attention. Of course everyone wanted to come.
And in order that the dinner be a success, the woman put much thought into arrangement of the guests: who should sit with whom, what the potential for conversation would be, how to break the ice between strangers. Her seating chart would have impressed a chess grandmaster with its subtle interplay of positions and relationships.
And for each guest she had selected tasteful gifts, to surprise and delight. Each was wrapped in colorful paper and lush ribbon and placed next to the appropriate gilt-edged placecard on the dining table. (She had also thoughtfully provided a coffeetable where her guests could place the hostess-gifts they would bring her.)
The last touch was to lavishly decorate the outside of the house and the yard with strings of lights and quaint holiday figures. This created the proper atmosphere for the festivities as the people arrived.
And arrive they did, on the appointed day, to be greeted by this perfect hostess in her smashing new dress designed just for this dinner party. She welcomed each group and ushered them into the house, to mingle and talk around the crackling cheery fire in the family room. There they could nibble mints and nuts, and sip hot cider.
When all were assembled, they were moved to the dining room. There was stunned silence as the crowd admired the impressive scene, then all were seated, and animated conversation commenced immediately. Exclamations of appreciation and admiration were shared all around as guests delightedly opened their special gifts. They showered praise on the skill and ability of their gracious hostess. Silverware clinked as the dessert from the buffet was passed around, glasses were raised, congratulations shouted.
And then it was time to go; the party was over. The guests rose, gathered coats, and after many effusive expressions of thanks, headed out into the frosty night air.
Just as the hostess closed the door behind the final departing guest and prepared to collapse in satisfied exhaustion, the voice of her small son arrested her.
“Mom! Where did all the people go?” he asked urgently. “They haven’t left yet, have they?”
“Yes, they’re all gone now. Why are you worried about them?” replied the woman.
“Because, Mom!” he said, pulling her through the open kitchen door, “you forgot to actually serve them the food!”
And there in the kitchen lay spread out before her the substance of the feast: turkey and dressing, potatoes and gravy, sweet potatoes and cranberries, and all the rest!
And one husband, as he was driving home from the dinner party, turned to his wife and said, “Dear, that was a beautiful dinner and all, but why do I still feel so hungry?”
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What an ironic thought! To have done all that work, and then forget to actually serve the meal that was supposed to be the nourishing reason for all the effort in the first place!
Perhaps it seems ridiculous that someone could get so wrapped up in the trappings and decorations that they would forget the substance, but is it really so impossible?
As the holidays approach, will you focus on the holy substance of Christmas? Will you center your celebration on the bountiful grace of God and God’s incarnate presence in Jesus? Or will you fall into the trap of the poor hostess in the parable, intending to focus on the feast, but getting distracted by externals instead?
One easy way to avoid such a trap is to include the worship resources of your church in your holiday schedule! Attend worship this Sunday , and the Almost Christmas service on Dec. 21 or one of the Christmas Eve Services (4:30 or 11). Gift the gift of Christmas by inviting your family and friends to come with you. Share the Bible story of God’s miracle of indwelling love in Jesus’ birth in your family celebration.
Don’t finish the holiday season with your stomach too full and your soul still hungry! Nourish both body and soul, and have a joyous holiday season of refreshment and renewal!